Description: Quranic injunctions on parents.By Aisha Stacey
If you type the words, "kindness to parents" in Google ,six of the first ten results
are Islamic articles stressing the importance of being dutiful and kind to parents.
Why is this so?
Islam is a religion that stresses the qualities of mercy, tolerance and respect.
God has ordained the good treatment of parents and warned us against treating them with disrespect.
There are several verses in the Quran where kindness to parents is even coupled with the most important
If you type the words, "kindness to parents" in Google ,six of the first ten results
are Islamic articles stressing the importance of being dutiful and kind to parents.
Why is this so?
Islam is a religion that stresses the qualities of mercy, tolerance and respect.
God has ordained the good treatment of parents and warned us against treating them with disrespect.
There are several verses in the Quran where kindness to parents is even coupled with the most important
aspect of Islam, worshipping God alone.
This indicates that being kind to parents, honouring and respecting them, is extremely important in the way
This indicates that being kind to parents, honouring and respecting them, is extremely important in the way
"And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him.
And that you be dutiful to your parents.
If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life,
say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but
address them in terms of honour." (Quran 17:23)
And that you be dutiful to your parents.
If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life,
say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but
address them in terms of honour." (Quran 17:23)
No word of disrespect should be uttered toward a parent, nor even a look of resentment or contempt.
Honouring parents can be considered a form of worship if the intention is to please Almighty God by
respecting His commands.
Honouring parents can be considered a form of worship if the intention is to please Almighty God by
respecting His commands.
God continues this verse by reminding us that parents are deserving of kindness because
they raised their children with gentleness and often made great sacrifices for their wellbeing.
His use of the word wing invokes the image of a mother bird tenderly shielding her young and
calls to mind the gentleness that parents have for their children.
they raised their children with gentleness and often made great sacrifices for their wellbeing.
His use of the word wing invokes the image of a mother bird tenderly shielding her young and
calls to mind the gentleness that parents have for their children.
"And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say:
'My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.'"
(Quran 17:24)
'My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.'"
(Quran 17:24)
The love and mercy that emanates from the Most Merciful God is manifest in the kind treatment existing
between parents and their children. God clearly prohibits the bad treatment of parents, and in another
verse of the Quran He enjoins on us the need to show gratitude to Him, our Creator, as well as our parents.
Again, God clearly links the rights owed to Him to the rights owed to parents.
between parents and their children. God clearly prohibits the bad treatment of parents, and in another
verse of the Quran He enjoins on us the need to show gratitude to Him, our Creator, as well as our parents.
Again, God clearly links the rights owed to Him to the rights owed to parents.
"And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents.
His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship,
and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents,
unto Me is the final destination." (Quran 31:14)
His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship,
and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents,
unto Me is the final destination." (Quran 31:14)
Prophet Muhammad
reinforced the duty to be kind to parents.
A companion of the Prophet once asked him which of the many good deeds a man can do is the most loved by God.
reinforced the duty to be kind to parents. A companion of the Prophet once asked him which of the many good deeds a man can do is the most loved by God.
Prophet Muhammad answered him by saying, "To offer the prayer in its proper time".
answered him by saying, "To offer the prayer in its proper time".The companion then asked, "And what is next?"
More than Goodness
The Arabic word that is used in the Quran and the narrations of Prophet Muhammad
to denote this kindness to parents as bir, and more often than not, it is translated as goodness.
However, as is the case with most Arabic words, a direct translation into English often fails to
explain the true depth of meaning.
The Arabic word that is used in the Quran and the narrations of Prophet Muhammad
to denote this kindness to parents as bir, and more often than not, it is translated as goodness.
However, as is the case with most Arabic words, a direct translation into English often fails to
explain the true depth of meaning.
Bir does not only mean goodness; it contains shades of meaning that indicate kindness,
compassion, respect and even patience.
Islam, the way of life, encompasses all these qualities, and Muslims must strive to model this behaviour
in all dealings, particularly in the relationship between parents and children.
Islam, the way of life, encompasses all these qualities, and Muslims must strive to model this behaviour
in all dealings, particularly in the relationship between parents and children.
Parents care for and nurture their children their entire lives, but at one point this duty reverses,
parents become old and feeble and in need of this care and nurturing themselves.
The child is obligated to care for the parents by displaying all the qualities of bir and knowing that
the reward for this is with God. The Prophet Muhammad said,
"If anyone possesses these three characteristics God will give him an easy death
and bring him into His Paradise: gentleness towards the weak, affection towards parents,
and kindness to slaves." [2]
parents become old and feeble and in need of this care and nurturing themselves.
The child is obligated to care for the parents by displaying all the qualities of bir and knowing that
the reward for this is with God. The Prophet Muhammad
said,"If anyone possesses these three characteristics God will give him an easy death
and bring him into His Paradise: gentleness towards the weak, affection towards parents,
and kindness to slaves." [2]
One Man's DevotionAbu Hurairah was a close companion of Prophet Muhammad; he is credited with remembering
and transmitting many of the Prophets' sayings.
The life of Abu Hurairah also contains many demonstrations of his love and devotion to his mother.
When he first embraced Islam, no amount of pleading could convince his mother to do the same.
Weeping and afraid, Abu Hurairah approached the Prophet and begged him to make supplication to God
asking that his mother be guided. Prophet Muhammad complied with this request and within a very
short period of time Abu Hurairah's mother uttered the words,
; he is credited with remembering and transmitting many of the Prophets' sayings.
The life of Abu Hurairah also contains many demonstrations of his love and devotion to his mother.
When he first embraced Islam, no amount of pleading could convince his mother to do the same.
Weeping and afraid, Abu Hurairah approached the Prophet and begged him to make supplication to God
asking that his mother be guided. Prophet Muhammad
complied with this request and within a very short period of time Abu Hurairah's mother uttered the words,
"There is no God but God and Muhammad
is his slave and Messenger", thus embracing Islam.Throughout his life, Abu Hurairah remained kind and courteous to his mother.
Whenever he wanted to leave home, he would stand at the door of her room and say,
Whenever he wanted to leave home, he would stand at the door of her room and say,
He would also say, "May God have mercy on you as you cared for me when I was small," to which
she would reply, "May God have mercy on you as you delivered me from error when I was old."
Abu Hurairah always encouraged other people to be kind and good to their parents.
One day he saw two men walking together and enquired of the younger one,
One day he saw two men walking together and enquired of the younger one,
"Who is this man to you?" to which the young man replied, "He is my father".
Abu Hurairah advised him by saying, "Do not call him by his name,
do not walk in front of him, and do not seat yourself before he does".
This gentleness and affection between Abu Hurairah and his mother teaches us that mutual respect
and love is a duty. A Muslim is obliged to show respect towards parents even if they are non-Muslim,
and the greatest love he can show towards them is to supplicate to God in hope that they will be
and love is a duty. A Muslim is obliged to show respect towards parents even if they are non-Muslim,
and the greatest love he can show towards them is to supplicate to God in hope that they will be
guided to Islam.
At the time of the Prophet, many of those who embraced Islam found that it conflicted with the beliefs
and requests of their parents, but they were taught to be kind and to obey their parents, except if the
parents demanded they disobey God.
At the time of the Prophet
, many of those who embraced Islam found that it conflicted with the beliefsand requests of their parents, but they were taught to be kind and to obey their parents, except if the
parents demanded they disobey God.
"But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge,
then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in
repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do." (Quran 31:15)
then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in
repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do." (Quran 31:15)
Being dutiful to parents, obeying them and treating them with kindness is embedded in the teachings of Islam,
however obedience to God is always the first and foremost duty in Islam.
however obedience to God is always the first and foremost duty in Islam.
Footnotes: [1] Saheeh Al-Bukhari
[2] Tirmidhi
"Peace be on you mother, and the mercy and blessings of God."
She would reply,
"And on you be peace, my son, and the mercy and blessings of God."
"And on you be peace, my son, and the mercy and blessings of God."
to which Prophet Muhammad replied, "To be good and dutiful to your parents…" [1].
The responsibility to be kind and good to parents comes right after the greatest duty in Islam, the prayer.
replied, "To be good and dutiful to your parents…" [1].The responsibility to be kind and good to parents comes right after the greatest duty in Islam, the prayer.
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